Myth: If I really care about my child, I would never give up him or her up for adoption.

Facts: The true sign of a mother's love is placing her child's needs in front of her own. If a birth mother is young and not ready for parenthood, or she does not have a full time partner, placing a child for adoption so they can have two devoted parents is a very loving decision. Some birth moms don't want their child to grow up in day care. They want them to have a stay at home mom. Some birth moms are not emotionally ready to put their lives on hold to be a parent. Parenting a child can be the end of dreams such as going to college or developing a job skill. Often a birth mom will be forced to go on welfare to parent her child. There is nothing selfish about placing your child for adoption in order to provide a positive future for them.

Myth: My child will hate me some day if I place them for adoption .

Facts: You have given your child the gift of life and put your child's needs first by placing them for adoption. I have never met an adopted child who did not understand that their birth mom made a decision for adoption out of love. I often hear stories similar to this one: "My biological mother was in high school when she was pregnant with me. I'm sure she felt she was not capable of providing me with everything she wanted me to have and decided that adoption would be the best choice for the both of us... My (adoptive) parents are the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I could not imagine my life any other way. I am constantly reminded of the wonderful, selfless choice my birthparents made by choosing adoption for me. I have had an abundant life full of many opportunities that I may not have otherwise been able to enjoy, including world travel, education, activities and religion. I was raised in a very loving home, and I continue to be extremely close to my parents today.

Myth: Nobody can love a child as much as I can .

Facts: While it is true that a biological parent holds tremendous love for their child, it is not a matter of biology. It is not inherited. An adopted couple's love is the result of effort and desire to be a parent. Adoptive parents have a true love and devotion to the child they adopt because they realize what a blessing it is to have a child in their lives. Adoptive children can learn that love oversteps many boundaries frequently put into place by humans. They can learn that closing one door can open another door and another and another"...Caroline Harding, adoptive mother

Myth: I will never hear from my child again or know how they are doing.

Facts: This was true in the past when all adoptions were closed and the child was taken from the birth mother and she had to live the rest of her life never knowing what became of her child. Today, you can create your own adoption plan which can make it possible for you to select your child's adoptive parents and meet them. You can choose to stay in touch while your child is growing up by receiving pictures and letters which can ensure that you made the right decision for your child. Whenever birth moms receive pictures and letters, I have never heard them voice regrets over their decision. I have heard the following comments over and over: "Look how happy they look. I never could have done this for them. I made the right decision by placing them for adoption."

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